Each parent has their own opinion about parenting a child using physical punishment. To be or not to be physical punishment as a method of education? This issue divided families into two camps. Many parents sincerely believe that a belt is an excellent prevention of bad behavior. They always find arguments to justify such methods of teaching the mind-mind. We will try to dispel their misconceptions on this score.
Sometimes parents are sure that the child does not hear them and does not want to hear, does everything out of spite. The simplest action in such a situation is to slap the naughty child on the head. It would seem that such a technique quickly brings him to his senses. An adult achieves his goal, and can calmly go about his business. It seems to him that the child will remember this lesson for the rest of his life, and this situation will never happen again.
However, the opposite effect occurs. Each time, the behavior of the spoiled person only gets worse, and the fear of punishment is less. The parent does not even try to understand the reasons for bad behavior, he has no time to understand the psychology of a little person, in his experiences and emotions. It is much easier to give a belt, achieving a momentary effect. Meanwhile, the child concludes that he is receiving physical punishment because of his worthlessness and subconsciously behaves worse. Yes, having received a painful blow from a loved one, he will calm down, because he will become afraid. But you can put an end to the trusting relationship between such parents and children.
The quarrels in the family continue endlessly. Adults and children constantly feel resentment and anger at each other. In the end, the parent realizes that he could not understand what his own child needs, failed to find an approach to him. And, as a rule, it is very difficult for him to admit his powerlessness, and it is impossible to correct the situation in a short time.
Many fathers believe that raising real men from boys is impossible without a whip. Sometimes parents try to grow a strong personality out of a girl in this way. They do not even suspect that the child, who is beaten by the closest people, feels not his own strength, but humiliation.
Such children begin to behave discreetly, are silent and suffer grievances, doing everything on the sly. In adulthood, these children are at high risk of alcohol or drug addiction, and they can become violent themselves.
After going through humiliation and suffering in childhood, they will take out their negative emotions on weak opponents, solve problems through the use of physical force. Of course, parents who beat their children shouldn’t expect respect from them when they grow up.
Raising your hand to a child, you make him insecure, cowardly and withdrawn. You bring up in him distrust of people, deceit and indifference to the problems of other people. Such children grow up to be secretive and emotionally callous personalities, have a tendency to cruelty.
Of course, there are no rules without exceptions. If a child who was beaten with a belt as a child turned into a good person, this does not mean that physical punishment did him good. It is very difficult to maintain love for people and a healthy psyche, having gone through fear of pain and humiliation. Yes, human resources are inexhaustible.
We can forgive offenders, justify criminals, we can even learn to live without a leg. But why challenge your own children to survive and not break down in a family with abusive parents?
Physical punishment is the bullying of defenseless children, a manifestation of their weakness and cruelty. This method of education will never bring positive results. It is in the hands of parents to correct the situation and never repeat their mistakes.